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Fall Afresh - Women's Ministry Kick Off (2)

September 14, 2016 · Deborah Buckingham

Scripture referenced 31 passages

The passage this message was preached from, in full, with every other passage it reached for.

  • Ephesians 4:12-13 quoted to cast the vision for community Bible study and equipping the body of Christ

    12 for the perfecting of the saints, to the work of serving, to the building up of the body of Christ;

    13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a full grown man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ;

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Ephesians 2:8-9

cited to define grace as God giving what we do not deserve, not from works

8 for by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God,

9 not of works, that no one would boast.

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Romans 8:1

cited to say there is no condemnation for those in Christ

1 There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who don’t walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.

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Matthew 5:7

quoted as Jesus saying the merciful will be shown mercy, placed among the beatitudes

7 Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.

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Jeremiah 33:3

cited as God's invitation to call on Him and be told things we do not know

3 ‘Call to me, and I will answer you, and will show you great and difficult things, which you don’t know.’

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Lamentations 3:22-23

quoted to say God's mercies never fail and are new every morning

22 It is because of Yahweh’s loving kindnesses that we are not consumed, because his compassion doesn’t fail.

23 They are new every morning. Great is your faithfulness.

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Matthew 9

referenced as Jesus eating with the riffraff at Matthew's house and rebuking the Pharisees about mercy over religion

1 He entered into a boat, and crossed over, and came into his own city.

2 Behold, they brought to him a man who was paralyzed, lying on a bed. Jesus, seeing their faith, said to the paralytic, “Son, cheer up! Your sins are forgiven you.”

3 Behold, some of the scribes said to themselves, “This man blasphemes.”

4 Jesus, knowing their thoughts, said, “Why do you think evil in your hearts?

5 For which is easier, to say, ‘Your sins are forgiven;’ or to say, ‘Get up, and walk?’

6 But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins-” (then he said to the paralytic), “Get up, and take up your mat, and go to your house.”

7 He arose and departed to his house.

8 But when the multitudes saw it, they marveled and glorified God, who had given such authority to men.

9 As Jesus passed by from there, he saw a man called Matthew sitting at the tax collection office. He said to him, “Follow me.” He got up and followed him.

10 As he sat in the house, behold, many tax collectors and sinners came and sat down with Jesus and his disciples.

11 When the Pharisees saw it, they said to his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”

12 When Jesus heard it, he said to them, “Those who are healthy have no need for a physician, but those who are sick do.

13 But you go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, and not sacrifice,’ for I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”

14 Then John’s disciples came to him, saying, “Why do we and the Pharisees fast often, but your disciples don’t fast?”

15 Jesus said to them, “Can the friends of the bridegroom mourn, as long as the bridegroom is with them? But the days will come when the bridegroom will be taken away from them, and then they will fast.

16 No one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment; for the patch would tear away from the garment, and a worse hole is made.

17 Neither do people put new wine into old wine skins, or else the skins would burst, and the wine be spilled, and the skins ruined. No, they put new wine into fresh wine skins, and both are preserved.”

18 While he told these things to them, behold, a ruler came and worshiped him, saying, “My daughter has just died, but come and lay your hand on her, and she will live.”

19 Jesus got up and followed him, as did his disciples.

20 Behold, a woman who had an issue of blood for twelve years came behind him, and touched the fringe of his garment;

21 for she said within herself, “If I just touch his garment, I will be made well.”

22 But Jesus, turning around and seeing her, said, “Daughter, cheer up! Your faith has made you well.” And the woman was made well from that hour.

23 When Jesus came into the ruler’s house, and saw the flute players, and the crowd in noisy disorder,

24 he said to them, “Make room, because the girl isn’t dead, but sleeping.” They were ridiculing him.

25 But when the crowd was put out, he entered in, took her by the hand, and the girl arose.

26 The report of this went out into all that land.

27 As Jesus passed by from there, two blind men followed him, calling out and saying, “Have mercy on us, son of David!”

28 When he had come into the house, the blind men came to him. Jesus said to them, “Do you believe that I am able to do this?” They told him, “Yes, Lord.”

29 Then he touched their eyes, saying, “According to your faith be it done to you.”

30 Their eyes were opened. Jesus strictly commanded them, saying, “See that no one knows about this.”

31 But they went out and spread abroad his fame in all that land.

32 As they went out, behold, a mute man who was demon possessed was brought to him.

33 When the demon was cast out, the mute man spoke. The multitudes marveled, saying, “Nothing like this has ever been seen in Israel!”

34 But the Pharisees said, “By the prince of the demons, he casts out demons.”

35 Jesus went about all the cities and the villages, teaching in their synagogues, and preaching the Good News of the Kingdom, and healing every disease and every sickness among the people.

36 But when he saw the multitudes, he was moved with compassion for them, because they were harassed and scattered, like sheep without a shepherd.

37 Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest indeed is plentiful, but the laborers are few.

38 Pray therefore that the Lord of the harvest will send out laborers into his harvest.”

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Hosea 6:6

cited as the Old Testament passage Jesus was quoting: God desires mercy, not sacrifice

6 For I desire mercy, and not sacrifice; and the knowledge of God more than burnt offerings.

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Psalm 19:7

quoted to say the instructions of the Lord are perfect and revive the soul

7 Yahweh’s law is perfect, restoring the soul. Yahweh’s testimony is sure, making wise the simple.

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Psalm 107:20

cited to say God's word heals us

20 He sends his word, and heals them, and delivers them from their graves.

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Proverbs 22:17-18

cited as four action verbs God gives us to get to know Him: listen, study, remember, quote

17 Turn your ear, and listen to the words of the wise. Apply your heart to my teaching.

18 For it is a pleasant thing if you keep them within you, if all of them are ready on your lips.

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Matthew 3:17

quoted as the voice from heaven at Jesus' baptism declaring His Son whom He loves

17 Behold, a voice out of the heavens said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.”

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1 John 3:1

cited as John asking how much the Father loves us, calling us His daughters

1 See how great a love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God! For this cause the world doesn’t know us, because it didn’t know him.

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Galatians 4:6

cited to say God sends the same Spirit that was in Jesus into our hearts, prompting us to cry Abba Father

6 And because you are children, God sent out the Spirit of his Son into your hearts, crying, “Abba, Father!”

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Isaiah 41:13

quoted as God saying He will take us by the right hand and help us, so we need not fear

13 For I, Yahweh your God, will hold your right hand, saying to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I will help you.’

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Psalm 103:8

cited to say God is compassionate, merciful and very slow to anger

8 Yahweh is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and abundant in loving kindness.

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Psalm 103:11

quoted to say as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is God's mercy over us

11 For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is his loving kindness toward those who fear him.

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1 Peter 5:8-9

cited as Peter's warning that the devil prowls like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour

8 Be sober and self-controlled. Be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.

9 Withstand him steadfast in your faith, knowing that your brothers who are in the world are undergoing the same sufferings.

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Proverbs 23:7

cited to say as a man thinks, so he is

7 for as he thinks about the cost, so he is. “Eat and drink!” he says to you, but his heart is not with you.

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1 John 4:4

quoted to say the Spirit in us is greater than the spirit in the world

4 You are of God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world.

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Luke 19:10

quoted as Jesus saying the Son of Man came to seek and save those who are lost

10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save that which was lost.”

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Psalm 139:17-18

cited as David marveling that God's thoughts about us outnumber the grains of sand

17 How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is their sum!

18 If I would count them, they are more in number than the sand. When I wake up, I am still with you.

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Isaiah 49

cited to say God never forgets us because we are engraved on the palms of His hands

1 Listen, islands, to me. Listen, you peoples, from afar: Yahweh has called me from the womb; from the inside of my mother he has mentioned my name.

2 He has made my mouth like a sharp sword. He has hidden me in the shadow of his hand. He has made me a polished shaft. He has kept me close in his quiver.

3 He said to me, “You are my servant; Israel, in whom I will be glorified.”

4 But I said, “I have labored in vain. I have spent my strength in vain for nothing; yet surely the justice due to me is with Yahweh, and my reward with my God.”

5 Now Yahweh says, he who formed me from the womb to be his servant, to bring Jacob again to him, and to gather Israel to him, for I am honorable in Yahweh’s eyes, and my God has become my strength.

6 Indeed, he says, “It is too light a thing that you should be my servant to raise up the tribes of Jacob, and to restore the preserved of Israel? I will also give you as a light to the nations, that you may be my salvation to the end of the earth.”

7 Yahweh, the Redeemer of Israel, and his Holy One, says to him whom man despises, to him whom the nation abhors, to a servant of rulers: “Kings shall see and rise up; princes, and they shall worship; because of Yahweh who is faithful, even the Holy One of Israel, who has chosen you.”

8 Yahweh says, “In an acceptable time I have answered you, and in a day of salvation I have helped you. I will preserve you, and give you for a covenant of the people, to raise up the land, to make them inherit the desolate heritage,

9 saying to those who are bound, ‘Come out!’; to those who are in darkness, ‘Show yourselves!’ “They shall feed along the paths, and their pasture shall be on all treeless heights.

10 They shall not hunger nor thirst; neither shall the heat nor sun strike them: for he who has mercy on them will lead them. He will guide them by springs of water.

11 I will make all my mountains a road, and my highways shall be exalted.

12 Behold, these shall come from afar; and behold, these from the north and from the west; and these from the land of Sinim.”

13 Sing, heavens; and be joyful, earth; and break out into singing, mountains: for Yahweh has comforted his people, and will have compassion on his afflicted.

14 But Zion said, “Yahweh has forsaken me, and the Lord has forgotten me.”

15 “Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yes, these may forget, yet I will not forget you!

16 Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands. your walls are continually before me.

17 Your children hurry. Your destroyers and those who devastated you will leave you.

18 Lift up your eyes all around, and see: all these gather themselves together, and come to you. As I live,” says Yahweh, “you shall surely clothe yourself with them all as with an ornament, and dress yourself with them, like a bride.

19 “For, as for your waste and your desolate places, and your land that has been destroyed, surely now that land will be too small for the inhabitants, and those who swallowed you up will be far away.

20 The children of your bereavement will say in your ears, ‘This place is too small for me. Give me a place to live in.’

21 Then you will say in your heart, ‘Who has conceived these for me, since I have been bereaved of my children, and am solitary, an exile, and wandering back and forth? Who has brought these up? Behold, I was left alone. Where were these?’”

22 Thus says the Lord Yahweh, “Behold, I will lift up my hand to the nations, and lift up my banner to the peoples; and they shall bring your sons in their bosom, and your daughters shall be carried on their shoulders.

23 Kings shall be your foster fathers, and their queens your nursing mothers. They will bow down to you with their faces to the earth, and lick the dust of your feet; Then you will know that I am Yahweh; and those who wait for me shall not be disappointed.”

24 Shall the plunder be taken from the mighty, or the lawful captives be delivered?

25 But Yahweh says, “Even the captives of the mighty shall be taken away, and the plunder retrieved from the fierce; for I will contend with him who contends with you, and I will save your children.

26 I will feed those who oppress you with their own flesh; and they will be drunk on their own blood, as with sweet wine. Then all flesh shall know that I, Yahweh, am your Savior, and your Redeemer, the Mighty One of Jacob.”

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Psalm 139:13-14

cited as God saying He knit us together in the womb and we are wonderfully and fearfully made

13 For you formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb.

14 I will give thanks to you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. My soul knows that very well.

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Ephesians 1:4

cited to say God had us in mind before the earth's foundation and settled on us as the focus of His love

4 even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and without defect before him in love;

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John 15:16

cited as God telling us He chose and appointed us to bear lasting fruit and to love each other

16 You didn’t choose me, but I chose you, and appointed you, that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain; that whatever you will ask of the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

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1 Timothy 3:15

cited to say the family is the church of the living God, the support and foundation of truth

15 but if I wait long, that you may know how men ought to behave themselves in God’s house, which is the assembly of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth.

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1 Corinthians 12:27

cited to say all together are Christ's body and each one is part of it

27 Now you are the body of Christ, and members individually.

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Romans 12:1

cited to say in Christ we form one body and each member belongs to the others

1 Therefore I urge you, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service.

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Ephesians 2:10

cited to say God made us to do good works He planned long ago for us to live doing

10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before that we would walk in them.

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1 Peter 4:10

cited to say God has given each person special abilities to use in helping one another

10 As each has received a gift, employ it in serving one another, as good managers of the grace of God in its various forms.

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Recap

The message in order, in a few minutes of reading.

This message was delivered at a women's community Bible study event hosted at First Baptist Jackson. The speaker was Deborah Buckingham, introduced by Carolyn Warzyniak. Deborah taught on the meaning of mercy, tracing it from its definition through its roots in how God values every person.

What was said

Deborah opened by explaining why she had spent nearly a year researching mercy, describing how the theme kept appearing in unexpected places, from a trip to Thailand with Children's Hunger Fund, to a sermon series Rick Warren announced at Saddleback, to Catholic friends reaching out about the year of mercy. She said she took all of it as a clear signal from God to go deeper on the subject.

She started by separating grace from mercy. Grace, she said, is God giving us what we do not deserve, a gift we cannot earn. Mercy is different: it is an action word with two parts. First, you see that someone has a need and you do something about it. Second, you choose to forgive. She pushed back against the idea that mercy is simply being a good person, saying there is a deeper root to it.

That root came to her while watching Ben Hur. Watching Jesus in those scenes, she said she noticed He kept gravitating toward people everyone else had written off. The message He was sending them, she argued, was: you are worth it, you have value. That is the core of mercy. When we give our time or money or forgiveness to someone, we are telling them they matter. When we withhold forgiveness and push someone away, we are telling them the opposite.

She then moved to the question of how mercy grows in a person, and her answer was that it starts with knowing God. She drew on the scene in Matthew 9 where Jesus is eating with people the Pharisees considered unfit, and Jesus tells the Pharisees to go figure out what it means that God desires mercy and not religion. Knowing God personally, she said, is what produces mercy in us, not accumulating doctrine or performing rituals.

Knowing God also settles the question of identity, which she treated as the necessary foundation for everything else. She said Christians who wound people are usually people who do not know who they are. Her own answer to the question was simple: she is a daughter of the King, and that identity comes before any role she holds as a wife or mother. She worked through several passages to show that God chose us, thinks about us constantly, and engraved us on the palms of His hands.

She closed by connecting personal identity to the life of the community. Using the image of a bolt that worked loose from a plane's elevator mechanism and caused a fatal crash, she argued that each person is a critical component of the body. No one is here to take up space. God planned good works for each person before they were born, and those good works are always expressed through serving others, because, as she quoted Rick Warren, it is impossible to serve God directly. The visible form that service takes, she said, is mercy.

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  1. Deborah described mercy as having two parts: meeting someone's need with action, and choosing to forgive. Which of those two is harder for you personally, and why?
  2. Deborah said the root of mercy is telling someone 'you are worth it, you are valued,' and that withholding forgiveness sends the opposite message. Can you think of a time when someone showing you mercy, or you showing it to another person, changed a relationship?

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1:10 how great how great is our God. We declare that this morning. H two eight, H see how great how great is our God.
3:40 Let's declare that this morning. How great is our God and
3:44 how great is our God. Sing with me.
6:08 Lord, thank you this morning. We thank you for the forgiveness that you've provided for us. When we sing of your greatness, we're thinking of those things. What an amazing love. Let's sing that together.
6:49 I'm forgiven.
8:59 You. You know you
11:10 and we thank you for your great love this morning for us. How could we ever thank you enough?
12:42 Just let that sink in. Yeah. He loves us. Oh, wow. He loves us.
12:53 Oh, wow. He loves us.
14:39 Lord that's our prayer to honor you as we worship you this morning. We love you. Go ahead and have a seat. Oh you guys sound so great today. So the theme of this event is to is fall afresh.
14:55 So we're gonna do one more song and we're just gonna take this last five minutes of worship and we're just gonna close our eyes and we're just gonna ask the Lord to come and fill us up, fill us afresh. How many of you in here maybe feel a little empty, going into fall, kids back to school, running the race, and his mercies are new every day? So you can just close your eyes. We're just gonna ask the Lord, whatever that need is this morning, would you just come and fill us to overflowing this morning?
15:38 Yes.
15:50 Just talk to him this morning. That's our prayer, Lord. Would you just come and would you fill us to overflow this morning? Wherever you are is where we wanna be. Fill us up.
21:19 Yes, Lord. Amen.
21:24 Amen. Thank you all so much. What a fabulous sight to see all you ladies here this morning. Thank you for coming. I've been standing here listening to the end of that song and I just, I peeped out and I thought, wow, what a beautiful daughters of the king.
21:51 Can you all just say that with me? I'll repeat it once. I am a beautiful, beloved daughter of the king. I am a beautiful, beloved daughter of the king and his presence here is with us this morning. Thank you so much for coming.
22:13 I'm Carolyn Warzyniak and I just welcome you. And I want to thank the ladies here at the First Baptist Church who prepared the beautiful array of bagels and coffee and the lovely arrangements. We're just surrounded with beauty this morning. And also wanted to thank our musicians today, Lissa Hunter, Renee Knudson, Christine Schueller, and Hillary, Hillary Becker. Just how great and gracious and what a giving lord we all serve.
23:02 I wanted to cast the vision for you this morning in having a community, community Bible studies. And I looked at Ephesians four twelve through 13, and I think this capsulizes our purpose here. Ephesians four twelve through 13, God says, we meet for equipping of the body of Christ, equipping for the work of service to the building up, building up of the body of Christ until we all, all of us attain to the unity of faith and of the knowledge of the son of God to a mature, a spiritually mature person to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. Doesn't that say at all? That's why we're here and that's our vision for coming together as a community.
24:11 So that verse really expresses a leader and team concept where the leaders are going to be praying and preparing. And as you all participate in the studies, we will be equipping each other, encouraging each other, praying for each other. And we want to take our groups from simply meeting together to thriving together in spiritual growth and in a sense of community here in Jackson Hole. Do I hear an amen to that? Now I'd like to introduce my dear friend and extraordinary teacher and speaker, Deborah Buckingham.
24:58 And I thought, come on up, Deborah. I could make up a number of marvelous things to say about Deborah because I know her inside and out. But I thought I would just take it from the back of her book, Nourishments, her wonderful devotional book that she wrote. And she toured 28 states two years ago and was on Moody Radio and many other television and radio stations. And Deborah is a lady who seeks to study God's truth.
25:36 She is a true Ezra in that she studies and she not only digs deep to extract God's principles, but she also practices it. You see it in her daily life, who she is inside and out. And then she's so gracious to pass it on to all of us. So we thank you, Deborah, for coming this morning. Deborah's going to teach us this morning on mercy and we look forward to that.
26:10 So, may I just pray for you, Deborah? Abba Father, Holy Spirit, Lord Jesus, we thank you that you're here with us this morning and we just pray that you would bring every heart to a place of rest. That we we would bring all things in subjection under your feet and leave them there and that we would just repose ourselves and listen and soak in what you have to say about mercy. You are so merciful. You have not given us what we deserve.
26:54 I pray your anointing over Deborah. I pray your Holy Spirit to speak through her in boldness and in truth and in love and we thank you in the name of Jesus, amen. Amen.
27:10 Thank you Carolyn. Carolyn take this.
27:15 Thank you.
27:17 I didn't even ask her to do that so thank you Carolyn. Wow, so I was sitting back there with Dancy and I had not talked to Carolyn, I didn't know what she was gonna say. I wasn't even sure what songs the girls were gonna sing because I've had a hard time developing this lesson. I've been going in all different directions and finally at the ninth hour, the Lord just gave me a clear vision and holy cow, all the songs, everything she said is exactly what I'm talking about, woo. I was like wow, just strike me with lightning now, I'm done.
27:53 I'm so excited. Okay, so why Mercy, why are we talking about Mercy? I just wanna give you a little bit of the backstory. Around November of last year, I felt the Lord telling me start researching mercy. So I'm like okay, I listened to Moody Radio a lot and I tuned in to every teaching I could and every word I got on Mercy, I would file away.
28:18 And then in February, my husband and I went to Thailand with Children's Hunger Fund and everything they did, they would call the mercy something. So I was literally following these guys around saying, excuse me, why do you call that the Mercy Network? And I'd write it down and they're like, here comes that crazy girl again obsessed with mercy. And then, you're not gonna believe this, we live here full time but when we're in California, we attend Saddleback Church with Rick Warren. First day we go to Saddleback, Rick Warren says, well, for about the past six months I've been researching mercy and I'm starting a new series on mercy.
29:02 And just to top it all off, all my dear Catholic friends started sending me stuff and I'm like, why are y'all sending me the stuff on mercy? I haven't told you I'm researching mercy and they're like, well, Deborah, in the Catholic church, this is the year of mercy. Wow, okay, can I ask you something, do we worship a God of confusion or when he wants to take us deeper somewhere, does he make it pretty clear? I was like, Lord have mercy, I am ready. So I started doing my own very unscientific research and asking people what's mercy to you?
29:41 And it was very interesting because a lot of people said, I think it's like grace. Yeah, I think it's pretty related to grace. Is it something like grace? And even yesterday, a girlfriend texted me and she said, oh, I'm just struggling with this relationship and that relationship and I texted her back and I said, well, honey, you just gotta show him some mercy. And it was so funny, her response.
30:08 She goes, why, they're not poor and needy, only the poor and needy need mercy. I said, I'm gonna fly you to Jackson, you're gonna listen to the message tomorrow. Well, before we define mercy, let's real quick hit on grace. Okay, so what is grace? The most simple definition is grace is God giving me what I don't deserve.
30:35 It's just a beautiful gift. Ephesians two:eight and nine says, for it is by grace we have been saved through faith and that's not even from ourselves, it's a gift from God, not from works, just in case we would boast about it. I love that. Romans eight:one says, There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ. In other words, God says, I don't care where you've been or what you've done, when you come to me, you're accepted into the family.
31:12 I see you through the lens of Jesus, I see you as good and complete and accept it. Has anyone ever just given you a gift and you thought, oh, wow, I can't receive that, that is just too nice, I'm not worthy. That is what God does to us, He hands out His Son Jesus and He says, No, you really aren't worthy, but He's my gift to you. Receive Him, receive Him into your life. It is the most amazing gift we will ever receive while we're humans.
31:51 It's incredible, grace. Now, what is mercy? Well, mercy by definition is an action word and there are two components to mercy. Mercy is an action word that is demonstrated first by seeing that someone has a need and I take action to meet that need. It's not well bless your heart, honey, I hope you get through it.
32:19 That's not mercy. Mercy says, how can I help you? Do you need me to listen to you, to pray for you? Can I help you by buying you a meal? It's helping others with our time, our money and our abilities.
32:36 I see that you have a need and I'm gonna meet that need with whatever power I have within me, I wanna meet that need for you. Now, the other side of mercy is forgiveness. Mercy is choosing to forgive someone. Mercy is a word that helps people. And you know, this is important to Jesus.
32:59 He said, blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy. It's right up there with forgiveness. He's like, you've gotta understand this as my follower. You want me to forgive you and I will forgive you. But what's the Lord's Prayer set, calls us to forgive others and Jesus says, if you don't learn forgiveness, I'm not gonna forgive you.
33:22 It's that important. The same thing, the beatitudes are the biggies and Jesus says, you will be blessed. You will have a joyful life if you learn how to show mercy because I'm gonna show it to you. He says, be merciful as my Father is merciful. Now I was sharing this definition with a Christian friend and he said, oh, okay, I get it.
33:48 Being merciful is just being a good person and doing good things. And I said, yeah, but it's so much more than that, but I couldn't nail it down. What is it, Lord, that it's more than that? And so I started praying and you know the Lord is faithful, He is so faithful to His word, He says, you seek me and you'll find me. You have a question, do you have His number?
34:12 Call him, it's 30 Jeremiah 30 three:three says, call me and I will tell you things you don't know. So it's like, Lord, I'm not getting this, I know it's about being good and helping people and being merciful, but what is the root of it? It's always about the intent with the Lord, right? So the Lord will speak to us in the funniest ways. So my husband and I go to see Ben Hur and there's only a few short scenes with Jesus but it just hit me how here is Jesus given authority over the entire universe, given authority over the weather, authority over every animal, He could have been hanging out with the kings and the princes of the world and where did He go?
35:02 He kinda went to the nobodies and the people that everyone else really didn't care about. And it just struck me in Ben Hur how he stopped and he listened and he just loved on people and I got it. Mercy, really the root of it, is telling someone, you know what, you're worth it, you are valued. Because that was all about Jesus' story. He valued everyone and that's why He came to earth to make sure that we could see that in flesh and blood, how much we were valued.
35:44 It didn't matter where we were from, it didn't matter what sin we did, it didn't matter if we were female and in that culture, females didn't matter, but Jesus said, oh yeah, you matter. He went to a lot of females. I love that about Him. So when you and I reach out to help someone, the message we're relaying is you're worth it, you're worth it, you matter. When I give of my money or my time, you're worth it.
36:15 Even forgiveness because think about what the opposite of forgiveness is. If I'm gonna not forgive you, I'm gonna hold a grudge and what do we do? We either gossip about that person because we want other people to agree with us or we do this, we reject them. We're like, no, I'm not gonna acknowledge you, I'm not gonna say hello to you, I don't forgive you and the message we're sending is you have no value to me. I mean, it's like on Shark Tank with Kevin O'Leary when he says you're dead to me.
36:47 The message he is sending is you have no value to me and God says, oh, I value every soul because they all come from the hand of God. And he says, that's what I want you to do. I want you to learn as my daughters to value others. So has anyone ever shown you mercy? I was thinking about this and I don't know why, this just popped into my head when I was in college.
37:22 I was determined to graduate in four years but I had zero help from my parents. So it was rough and I was barely surviving. In fact, my big treat was every Friday, I would take two eggs and a slice of American cheese and make an omelet and that was my big treat for the week. And so I got a job as a hostess and the manager that hired me picked up on the fact I was really struggling financially. So he started saving me leftover baked potatoes, he started saving me leftover salad bar and I was like, wow, that is so incredible.
38:07 I just wanna warn you though, when you show mercy to someone or someone shows mercy to you, there's a connection that develops and I'm still very connected to that manager thirty four years later. Yeah, he's no dummy, that Greg Buckingham. And I will tell you that he still shows me a lot of mercy, love him, love him. And I was thinking the same is true with the Lord. You know, when I started researching this, I started praying this prayer.
38:45 Lord, I think that I miss your mercies. I don't think my eyes are open to them. And so I started praying, let me see your mercies every day. And the Lord honors that kind of prayer and it is very humbling. I am overwhelmed at how the psalmist says not only does he forgive, but he stands ready to forgive.
39:10 I don't care how awful I am or what I do, I confess it to him and you know what he says? Forgiven, we're good, come on baby girl, let's get going. Every day He meets our needs. He is so merciful. So because of God's grace, I am invited into His family and because of His mercy, I get to stay in that family.
39:36 Lamentations three says, because of the Lord's great love, we are not consumed for his mercies never fail, they are new every morning. Hallelujah. Every morning I wake up, I don't need to worry because those mercies are there for me. Number one, He's gonna meet my every need that day, thank you, sweet Jesus. Number two, I don't have to worry about my walk because I know if I fall back into my flesh, I can say, Father, forgive me, and He's done, forgiven.
40:14 That is a merciful God. Jesus tells us a story in Matthew chapter nine. He's at Matthew's house and he's there with all the disciples and I love how the message says and he's there with the riffraff. You know, he was there with those who aren't comfortable coming to church. He was there with the sexually immoral.
40:39 He was there with those who maybe had addictions and he's listening to them and He is loving on them and He is showing them mercy and the Pharisees come marching in and they say to His disciples, they're like, are you kidding me? What kind of example is your master setting? Of course, Jesus hears everything and he shoots back at them. He says to them, oh, who needs a doctor, the healthy or the sick? And then this really struck me, He said, You go figure out what this means.
41:14 I'm after mercy, not your religion. I'm here to invite the outsiders, not coddle you insiders. Woah. That is a powerful word from the Lord, go figure this out. I'm after mercy and not religion.
41:35 You know, he was quoting an Old Testament passage from Hosea that says, I desire mercy, not sacrifice. I desire you to know me, not your burnt offerings. Loving God and loving others was always his number one goal, always. And Jesus tells us here how we start to develop mercy, we have to know God. Can I ask you today, do you know about God or do you really know Him?
42:06 He's not that hard to get to know. I mean, He gives us His every word and thought in the Bible, He says just open it up and read it, just ask me what direction you should take, just pray to me, talk to me, I'll be there for you. Sing those beautiful praise songs to me, that's how we get to know the Lord. You know, it's not about knowing truth though, just knowing it, it's not about truth isn't about rituals or doctrines, Jesus said, I am the truth, know me. And then what did he say?
42:47 I am the way and the life. You know me, girl, I'll show you the way you should take. I'll give you life on this earth and eternal life. Just get to know me. I love that.
43:03 Psalm nineteen:seven says, this is why we get to know the word of the Lord. And Lyssa referenced this, the instructions of the Lord are perfect, they revive the soul. I mean, how many times on this earth do we just get sick and tired or weary or frustrated? We're praying for that prodigal child who isn't coming back. We're praying for that unbelieving husband who has no interest in the Lord and we're just done and the Lord says, you come to me, baby girl.
43:35 You spend time with me. Let me revive your soul. Psalm 1seven 20 says, His word heals us. We all need healing. You know, just because we're a Christian and we have a new spirit doesn't mean we have a new way of thinking or a healed heart.
43:56 That's called the sanctification process, that takes time, that's our journey on earth. But God says, you come to me and you let me start the healing process. I love Proverbs twenty-two seventeen and eighteen. God gives us four action verbs to get to know Him. First, He says, listen, listen to teachings about me and be careful what teachings you listen to, but listen, listen, and then study.
44:27 Take those teachings and open His Word and look up the verses and study it and then remember it and quote it. For the past twenty years since I rededicated my life to the Lord, I have a new set of these going every year. Whatever the Lord speaks to me, I write it on my index card, I carry it around with me all day, and no, I can't quote you every verse word by word, but I know the intent of it. I write it on the soil of my soul what God is saying to me. This is a game changer.
45:00 You wanna change your life? You wanna change your life for the abundant life that God promises us? Write this in your mind because I love this saying that I heard, every thought that we have has an agenda for our life. We are what we think and that's why the Lord says you have to transform your thinking. It's a little messed up from the world, so you have to change it for my truth.
45:31 So why is it so important to know the Lord? Well, knowing Him is the first step to falling in love with Him. And when I know Him, the second most important step happens. I understand who I am and then I understand what the heck I'm here for. I mean, you've heard the saying, the two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you figure out why.
46:00 I mean, God wants us to know that, but I think we get tripped up in our walk with Him because we don't really know what He says about us. And I think that some of us as Christians, we wanna be busy, busy, busy, but God is the God of order and He says this is the order, your identity first and then your activity. Before we do something for Him, we need to be somebody. If I were to ask you today, who are you? I can tell you what I would say, say what Carolyn said, I am Deborah Buckingham, daughter of the king.
46:44 That is my first identity, even before being Grayson and Julia's mom or Greg's wife. I am a daughter of the king. And can I tell you, I know who you are too? You are who God says you are. This is the first thing we must establish to be a healthy Christian.
47:06 There's a lot of unhealthy Christians out there that hurt people and you always go, what is wrong with them? I could tell you, they don't know who they are. They're not acting like a daughter of the king, okay? You are not who an unhealthy parent said you were growing up. You are not the label a teacher tried to smack on you.
47:29 You are not who those mean girls said you are. You are a treasure. You are incredibly and wonderfully made. You're an incredible treasure. You know, Jesus, before He even began His ministry, before He performed one miracle, before He did one thing, He went down to the river, he got baptized and he declared his alliance with God.
47:58 And we are told in Matthew three seventeen, a voice from heaven said, This is my son whom I love and whom I'm well pleased with. And you, it's not any different from you. God says the same thing about you. When you declare that He is your King of kings and your Lord of lords, God says in John, one John three:one, John wrote, Do you know how much your Father loves you? You know how much He loves you?
48:30 He calls you His daughter. Okay, do you know who you are? He calls you His daughter and that is what we are. Galatians four:six goes on to say, and because we are His children, because we are His daughter, God sends us the very same spirit that was in Jesus into our heart and it prompts us to call out Abba, Father. What is God saying there?
48:56 He's saying, hey girls, who's your daddy? That's what he's saying. He's saying, who's your daddy? I'm your daddy now. I am your safe place now.
49:08 I've got your back 20 fourseven. I am here for you no matter what comes your way, you're safe now. You come to me and we'll get through this. Isaiah 4one 13 is just one of my favorite verses I've claimed for twenty years. For I am the Lord your God, your God, your God.
49:36 He says, I will take you by the right hand. I just visualize him holding my right hand. So you do not fear, I will help you. Do you need help in any area, any area? You claim that verse, you say, all right, Lord, you take me by the right hand and you help me.
49:57 That's what God wants us to do. You know, for so many years, I had an incomplete view of God. From my upbringing, I just knew if I stepped out of line, He was gonna zap me. I mean, He is a God of righteousness and justice, He is holy and perfect and pure and I'm not, so I was a little afraid of God. I didn't understand how merciful and loving He is.
50:27 But this is what He says to us, Psalm 100 three:eight, I am compassionate and merciful. Very slow to get angry, He is so patient with us. He gives us 10,000 mercies to one judgment. 10,000 mercies. And even when He does discipline us, He does it with mercy.
50:51 Psalm 1three 11 says, For as high as the heavens are above the earth, that is how high and great my mercy is over you. But you know, I have to caution you because if you stand up, you stand out. And the Lord Jesus Himself said, You're gonna have trouble this side of heaven. And Peter tells us, Be careful, stay alert, watch out because your great enemy, the devil, he prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. So stand firm against him, be strong in your faith and remember that your family of believers, they're all going through the same thing.
51:35 It isn't just you. So what Peter is saying to us here is the enemy wants to get in our head and he wants us to play the tape of lies over and over and over. He doesn't want us to play the tape of truth. When we pray, we wanna say, did you really hear me Lord? Are you really there for me?
51:55 Are you really gonna help me? And the enemy just wants us to keep playing that tape. But the truth is what God says is truth. And Jesus is really our example because when right after he got baptized and the Lord said that he loved him, the very next chapter, he is out in the desert and the enemy is like, really? Did God really say that?
52:22 And I love what Jesus said. He said three things. He said, I'm gonna keep my eyes on the one God, I worship only the one true God. Number one, every word that comes out of his mouth is true. We may not get it, but we have to just cross that line and say His word is truth.
52:45 And number three, I'm not gonna test Him. I'm not gonna test Him by saying, Lord, do you hear me? Lord, do you love me? Lord, are you gonna help me? Nope, I'm just gonna trust Him.
52:55 I'm gonna say I trust you, Jesus. You're gonna get me through and onto the other side. He is our incredible example there. Proverbs 20 three:seven says, we're as a man thinks, so he is. We are what we think, ladies.
53:13 And I just wanna encourage you too, you know, as Jesus is calling us to be his vessels of mercy to help others, Well, the enemy uses people too, but we have the solution. First John four:four says, You belong to God, my dear children and you have already won a victory over those people that he's using because the power, because the spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit that lives in the world. So that is the verse we're gonna claim, the spirit that lives in me is greater than anything coming against me, okay? It's greater. So why did Jesus come to earth?
53:57 Why did He come here? I mean, He came to die on the cross, but my question always goes back to but why? Do you know why he came? Because something very valuable was lost and he came looking for it. Luke nineteen ten says, The Son of Man came to seek and save those who are lost.
54:23 Now, as I get older, this toothpick or any toothpick has become my new friend. The older ladies will understand what I'm talking about in here. You younger girls, you don't get it yet. But I love how useful this little toothpick is. But if I was using my toothpick before you all got here and I lost it, I wouldn't say to you, can you look under your chair for my toothpick?
54:49 Yeah. Why? Is this just not that valuable to me? Useful, but not that valuable. But if I lost my wedding ring, this has great value to me.
55:02 I would say, oh, would you mind just looking around your area? We look for things that are lost when they're valuable. Jesus says, you were that valuable that I would come to earth and look for you. And He looks for us, He knocks on the door of every one of our hearts and He's like, can I just come in and be with you? Can I do life with you?
55:30 I'll be there for you. You're worth it to me. How precious are we to him? Psalm 13nine seventeen and eighteen says, David was overwhelmed. He wrote, Oh God, how precious are your thoughts about me?
55:47 They cannot even be numbered, I can't even count them, they outnumber the grains of sand. And when I wake up, you're still there with me?
55:57 Okay,
56:01 imagine during the day that God thinks about you all day long. That's wow. You're His daughter. You're His baby girl. You're very precious to Him.
56:17 And then Jesus sits on the right hand of the Father interceding for you all day, saying come on, you can do it. Come on, Christine, hang in there. I'm not giving up on you, Teresa, I'm praying for you. That is truth, ladies. Isaiah 49 says, Abba Father never forgets us because we are engraved on the palm of His hands.
56:43 You know, our lives might look crazy and scarred up from the consequences of sin, either sin we did or sin someone put on us. But God looks at us as His beautiful daughter and He says, not only will I be with you here, but what I have waiting for you, girl, you can't even imagine it. We're gonna live in a new Jerusalem, a bejeweled city with streets of gold and he says the columns will be made of rubies and emeralds, he's like, whatever trouble you're having here, it's not even gonna compare. When you see me and when you come to heaven with your sisters and
57:26 there is no more sin,
57:28 woo, it is gonna be the best party that'll last forever. Oh my gosh, I even wait. So how does God look at you when he looks at you? David also clues us into this in Psalm 139. For God himself said, I knit you together in your mother's womb.
57:54 You know, your natural parents may not have planned you, you may not have even been wanted, but your Creator planned you and He wanted you and that's all that matters. And you know what He says about you? He says, You are wonderfully and fearfully made. You're special to me. Wow.
58:16 You know, God looks at you and He just loves you because He made you. I think I get that being a mom. When I brought my kids home, they didn't have to sleep through the night for me to love them. It didn't hurt, that's for sure. But I just love them because they were.
58:39 It was just the craziest thing and I'm just a human, I can't imagine how much more God loves us. You know, there's this really cool verse, Ephesians one:four, I love how the message says it. Long before he laid down the earth's foundation, God had you in mind. He had settled on you as the focus of his love. You know, God made this universe and everything in it, the sun, the moon, the animals, for us.
59:16 I think that's incredible. I mean, for our pleasure, for our joy, to sustain us, He made it for us. The most important thing you can know is to know that God created you and that God loves you. And the most important thing you can do is to love Him back, that's the most important thing we will do in our life Because that establishes who I am in Christ. So why are we here?
59:46 John fifteen sixteen, God is talking through John and He says to us, you didn't choose me. He said, I chose you and appointed you so that you will go and bear fruit, fruit that will last. And then whatever you ask in my name, I will give you but this is my command, this is what I need you to do for that to happen, love each other, show mercy to each other. That's what love is. God has always been all about relationships.
1:00:20 That's why I love these community affairs. You know, we get a little messed up in our world. We think our church is our denomination, we think our church is a certain set of rituals we go through. What does God say about church? God says you are the church, we are the church, we are family.
1:00:42 First Timothy three fifteen says, the family is the church of the living God, the support and foundation of the truth. That's why we need each other, that's why we need mercy, we need to be with one another and help one another get through this journey and it's gonna take a lot of forgiveness because we're boneheads and we screw up. So we just forgive one another, that's why God says mercy is so important but we need to do it together. God made us to be in relationship, not to be in isolation. The church is so important.
1:01:18 You know, I think one of the biggest lies the enemy wants to get in your head is you don't really matter, you're not all that important. Well, in 1961, TWA flight five twenty nine lifted off from Chicago's airport. Everything was going great. Minutes later, the pilots couldn't control the airplane. The plane crashed killing all 78 people on board.
1:01:48 The investigators were like, what happened? Everything was fine. Their investigation shocked the aviation world. What happened was one little bolt worked its way out of the elevator mechanism. And if you don't have the elevator mechanism, you can't control the plane.
1:02:08 One little bolt worked its way out and crashed the plane. You are an important piece of a puzzle, a puzzle of your family, a puzzle of this community, a puzzle of our great country, when we work our way loose from the community, from the family, things fall apart. God wants us to be part of it. You are a critical component to the family of God. First Corinthians twelve twenty seven says, all of you together are Christ's body and each one of you are part of it.
1:02:54 You're not here to take up space. We're not here to eat, drink and be merry and then we die. We're here because God has a plan for us. Romans twelve:one says, In Christ, though there are many of us, we form one body, we form one family and each member belongs to the other members. I like how the message unpacks it further.
1:03:20 The message says the body we're talking about is Christ's body of chosen people, that's us. Each of us finds our meaning and function as part of the body, but as a chopped off finger, we wouldn't amount to much. Okay, so what is this saying? If I chop off my finger, quite literally, what happens? It stops functioning, right?
1:03:47 It stops helping my body and eventually it stops living. You are an important piece of the family, the sisterhood. We all matter to God and only you can do what God planned in advance for you to do. Ephesians two ten said, God made us what we are. Whatever you are, God made you that way.
1:04:16 In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which he planned long ago for us to live our lives doing. Are we doing it? Are we doing those good works, those acts of mercy? God knew before we were born what He wanted us to do here and we're not just to take up space, we're here for a reason. First Peter four ten says, God has given each of you some very special abilities.
1:04:47 Every single one of you has a special ability. Be sure to use them to help each other, passing on to other God's many blessings. I love what Rick Warren says, he says, on earth, it is impossible to serve God directly. I mean, we can't see God, we can talk to him but we can't hear him talking to us back, right? It is impossible to serve him directly.
1:05:16 The only way you can serve him is by serving others. So every time you help someone and you show mercy, it's like God is saying you're doing it for me. I'm just gonna close with saying, you know, we think being a spiritually mature person is maybe our title in the church or what we do or how many verses we know. You know that you're growing spiritually if you're showing mercy because what you're doing is you're valuing people and that was the most important thing to Jesus. He came because you were valuable to Him.
1:06:07 He values you and he calls us to value others. Lord, thank you for your word. It is so good and uplifting and merciful. Thank you for your mercies every day that you have over us. Teach us Lord, teach us to be merciful people.
1:06:28 Teach us Lord to value our sisters In Jesus' holy name, amen.
1:06:36 I think the Lord has a message for us today because last night when we rehearsed, I just said, oh gosh, this song just keeps coming to mind and so just close your eyes and we're just gonna sing this and hear what the Lord has to say about us. We for your heart for us today. We thank you that there's not one person in this room here by accident today, that you had a message for each and every one of us today, how you love us, how we are created wonderfully, that we are your handiwork, here for a purpose, a divine purpose. You've shown your mercy on us. And as we leave here today and as we fellowship, Lord, teach us, let those seeds go deep.
1:12:14 Let it grow and cultivate what it really means to show mercy. Through your love, Jesus, we love you. I thank you for today. Seal it all up in your son's precious name. Amen.
1:12:29 There's more food back there. I'm sure there 's lots more chatting to take place. Thank you guys for coming. What a wonderful day.

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