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Love Must Have an Object

September 15, 2024

Scripture referenced 9 passages

The passage this message was preached from, in full, with every other passage it reached for.

  • Psalm 51 Carl read it before one of the songs; cited as a model for self-examination: 'Search me and see if there be any wicked way in me'

    1 Have mercy on me, God, according to your loving kindness. According to the multitude of your tender mercies, blot out my transgressions.

    2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity. Cleanse me from my sin.

    3 For I know my transgressions. My sin is constantly before me.

    4 Against you, and you only, I have sinned, and done that which is evil in your sight; that you may be proved right when you speak, and justified when you judge.

    5 Behold, I was born in iniquity. In sin my mother conceived me.

    6 Behold, you desire truth in the inward parts. You teach me wisdom in the inmost place.

    7 Purify me with hyssop, and I will be clean. Wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.

    8 Let me hear joy and gladness, That the bones which you have broken may rejoice.

    9 Hide your face from my sins, and blot out all of my iniquities.

    10 Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a right spirit within me.

    11 Don’t throw me from your presence, and don’t take your holy Spirit from me.

    12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation. Uphold me with a willing spirit.

    13 Then I will teach transgressors your ways. Sinners shall be converted to you.

    14 Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O God, the God of my salvation. My tongue shall sing aloud of your righteousness.

    15 Lord, open my lips. My mouth shall declare your praise.

    16 For you don’t delight in sacrifice, or else I would give it. You have no pleasure in burnt offering.

    17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.

    18 Do well in your good pleasure to Zion. Build the walls of Jerusalem.

    19 Then you will delight in the sacrifices of righteousness, in burnt offerings and in whole burnt offerings. Then they will offer bulls on your altar.

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1 John 1:9

if we confess our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us and purify us from all unrighteousness

9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

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James 5:16

be confessing your sins to each other and praying for each other so that you might be healed; the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective

16 Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective.

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John 3

Jesus speaking to Nicodemus about rebirth; unless you are born from above you will not get free from these things

1 Now there was a man of the Pharisees named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews.

2 The same came to him by night, and said to him, “Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher come from God, for no one can do these signs that you do, unless God is with him.”

3 Jesus answered him, “Most certainly, I tell you, unless one is born anew, he can’t see God’s Kingdom.”

4 Nicodemus said to him, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother’s womb, and be born?”

5 Jesus answered, “Most certainly I tell you, unless one is born of water and spirit, he can’t enter into God’s Kingdom.

6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh. That which is born of the Spirit is spirit.

7 Don’t marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born anew.’

8 The wind blows where it wants to, and you hear its sound, but don’t know where it comes from and where it is going. So is everyone who is born of the Spirit.”

9 Nicodemus answered him, “How can these things be?”

10 Jesus answered him, “Are you the teacher of Israel, and don’t understand these things?

11 Most certainly I tell you, we speak that which we know, and testify of that which we have seen, and you don’t receive our witness.

12 If I told you earthly things and you don’t believe, how will you believe if I tell you heavenly things?

13 No one has ascended into heaven, but he who descended out of heaven, the Son of Man, who is in heaven.

14 As Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of Man be lifted up,

15 that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

17 For God didn’t send his Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world should be saved through him.

18 He who believes in him is not judged. He who doesn’t believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the one and only Son of God.

19 This is the judgment, that the light has come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the light; for their works were evil.

20 For everyone who does evil hates the light, and doesn’t come to the light, lest his works would be exposed.

21 But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his works may be revealed, that they have been done in God.”

22 After these things, Jesus came with his disciples into the land of Judea. He stayed there with them, and baptized.

23 John also was baptizing in Enon near Salim, because there was much water there. They came, and were baptized.

24 For John was not yet thrown into prison.

25 There arose therefore a questioning on the part of John’s disciples with some Jews about purification.

26 They came to John, and said to him, “Rabbi, he who was with you beyond the Jordan, to whom you have testified, behold, the same baptizes, and everyone is coming to him.”

27 John answered, “A man can receive nothing, unless it has been given him from heaven.

28 You yourselves testify that I said, ‘I am not the Christ,’ but, ‘I have been sent before him.’

29 He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice. This, my joy, therefore is made full.

30 He must increase, but I must decrease.

31 He who comes from above is above all. He who is from the earth belongs to the earth, and speaks of the earth. He who comes from heaven is above all.

32 What he has seen and heard, of that he testifies; and no one receives his witness.

33 He who has received his witness has set his seal to this, that God is true.

34 For he whom God has sent speaks the words of God; for God gives the Spirit without measure.

35 The Father loves the Son, and has given all things into his hand.

36 One who believes in the Son has eternal life, but one who disobeys the Son won’t see life, but the wrath of God remains on him.”

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John 5

the man by the Pool of Bethesda; Jesus asks 'are you willing to be well?' used to illustrate being entirely ready for God to work

1 After these things, there was a feast of the Jews, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem.

2 Now in Jerusalem by the sheep gate, there is a pool, which is called in Hebrew, “Bethesda”, having five porches.

3 In these lay a great multitude of those who were sick, blind, lame, or paralyzed, waiting for the moving of the water;

4 for an angel went down at certain times into the pool, and stirred up the water. Whoever stepped in first after the stirring of the water was healed of whatever disease he had.

5 A certain man was there, who had been sick for thirty-eight years.

6 When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he had been sick for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to be made well?”

7 The sick man answered him, “Sir, I have no one to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up, but while I’m coming, another steps down before me.”

8 Jesus said to him, “Arise, take up your mat, and walk.”

9 Immediately, the man was made well, and took up his mat and walked. Now it was the Sabbath on that day.

10 So the Jews said to him who was cured, “It is the Sabbath. It is not lawful for you to carry the mat.”

11 He answered them, “He who made me well, the same said to me, ‘Take up your mat, and walk.’”

12 Then they asked him, “Who is the man who said to you, ‘Take up your mat, and walk’?”

13 But he who was healed didn’t know who it was, for Jesus had withdrawn, a crowd being in the place.

14 Afterward Jesus found him in the temple, and said to him, “Behold, you are made well. Sin no more, so that nothing worse happens to you.”

15 The man went away, and told the Jews that it was Jesus who had made him well.

16 For this cause the Jews persecuted Jesus, and sought to kill him, because he did these things on the Sabbath.

17 But Jesus answered them, “My Father is still working, so I am working, too.”

18 For this cause therefore the Jews sought all the more to kill him, because he not only broke the Sabbath, but also called God his own Father, making himself equal with God.

19 Jesus therefore answered them, “Most certainly, I tell you, the Son can do nothing of himself, but what he sees the Father doing. For whatever things he does, these the Son also does likewise.

20 For the Father has affection for the Son, and shows him all things that he himself does. He will show him greater works than these, that you may marvel.

21 For as the Father raises the dead and gives them life, even so the Son also gives life to whom he desires.

22 For the Father judges no one, but he has given all judgment to the Son,

23 that all may honor the Son, even as they honor the Father. He who doesn’t honor the Son doesn’t honor the Father who sent him.

24 “Most certainly I tell you, he who hears my word, and believes him who sent me, has eternal life, and doesn’t come into judgment, but has passed out of death into life.

25 Most certainly, I tell you, the hour comes, and now is, when the dead will hear the Son of God’s voice; and those who hear will live.

26 For as the Father has life in himself, even so he gave to the Son also to have life in himself.

27 He also gave him authority to execute judgment, because he is a son of man.

28 Don’t marvel at this, for the hour comes, in which all that are in the tombs will hear his voice,

29 and will come out; those who have done good, to the resurrection of life; and those who have done evil, to the resurrection of judgment.

30 I can of myself do nothing. As I hear, I judge, and my judgment is righteous; because I don’t seek my own will, but the will of my Father who sent me.

31 “If I testify about myself, my witness is not valid.

32 It is another who testifies about me. I know that the testimony which he testifies about me is true.

33 You have sent to John, and he has testified to the truth.

34 But the testimony which I receive is not from man. However, I say these things that you may be saved.

35 He was the burning and shining lamp, and you were willing to rejoice for a while in his light.

36 But the testimony which I have is greater than that of John, for the works which the Father gave me to accomplish, the very works that I do, testify about me, that the Father has sent me.

37 The Father himself, who sent me, has testified about me. You have neither heard his voice at any time, nor seen his form.

38 You don’t have his word living in you; because you don’t believe him whom he sent.

39 “You search the Scriptures, because you think that in them you have eternal life; and these are they which testify about me.

40 Yet you will not come to me, that you may have life.

41 I don’t receive glory from men.

42 But I know you, that you don’t have God’s love in yourselves.

43 I have come in my Father’s name, and you don’t receive me. If another comes in his own name, you will receive him.

44 How can you believe, who receive glory from one another, and you don’t seek the glory that comes from the only God?

45 “Don’t think that I will accuse you to the Father. There is one who accuses you, even Moses, on whom you have set your hope.

46 For if you believed Moses, you would believe me; for he wrote about me.

47 But if you don’t believe his writings, how will you believe my words?”

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John 15

the Holy Spirit's jobs: to illuminate scripture, convict of sin, and convince of righteousness

1 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the farmer.

2 Every branch in me that doesn’t bear fruit, he takes away. Every branch that bears fruit, he prunes, that it may bear more fruit.

3 You are already pruned clean because of the word which I have spoken to you.

4 Remain in me, and I in you. As the branch can’t bear fruit by itself, unless it remains in the vine, so neither can you, unless you remain in me.

5 I am the vine. You are the branches. He who remains in me, and I in him, the same bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.

6 If a man doesn’t remain in me, he is thrown out as a branch, and is withered; and they gather them, throw them into the fire, and they are burned.

7 If you remain in me, and my words remain in you, you will ask whatever you desire, and it will be done for you.

8 “In this is my Father glorified, that you bear much fruit; and so you will be my disciples.

9 Even as the Father has loved me, I also have loved you. Remain in my love.

10 If you keep my commandments, you will remain in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and remain in his love.

11 I have spoken these things to you, that my joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be made full.

12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another, even as I have loved you.

13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

14 You are my friends, if you do whatever I command you.

15 No longer do I call you servants, for the servant doesn’t know what his lord does. But I have called you friends, for everything that I heard from my Father, I have made known to you.

16 You didn’t choose me, but I chose you, and appointed you, that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain; that whatever you will ask of the Father in my name, he may give it to you.

17 “I command these things to you, that you may love one another.

18 If the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you.

19 If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, since I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.

20 Remember the word that I said to you: ‘A servant is not greater than his lord.’ If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you. If they kept my word, they will also keep yours.

21 But all these things will they do to you for my name’s sake, because they don’t know him who sent me.

22 If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not have had sin; but now they have no excuse for their sin.

23 He who hates me, hates my Father also.

24 If I hadn’t done among them the works which no one else did, they wouldn’t have had sin. But now have they seen and also hated both me and my Father.

25 But this happened so that the word may be fulfilled which was written in their law, ‘They hated me without a cause.’

26 “When the Counselor has come, whom I will send to you from the Father, the Spirit of truth, who proceeds from the Father, he will testify about me.

27 You will also testify, because you have been with me from the beginning.

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Ephesians 4

just as God in Christ has forgiven us, cited on how we are to forgive others

1 I therefore, the prisoner in the Lord, beg you to walk worthily of the calling with which you were called,

2 with all lowliness and humility, with patience, bearing with one another in love;

3 being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

4 There is one body, and one Spirit, even as you also were called in one hope of your calling;

5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism,

6 one God and Father of all, who is over all, and through all, and in us all.

7 But to each one of us was the grace given according to the measure of the gift of Christ.

8 Therefore he says, “When he ascended on high, he led captivity captive, and gave gifts to men.”

9 Now this, “He ascended”, what is it but that he also first descended into the lower parts of the earth?

10 He who descended is the one who also ascended far above all the heavens, that he might fill all things.

11 He gave some to be apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, shepherds and teachers;

12 for the perfecting of the saints, to the work of serving, to the building up of the body of Christ;

13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a full grown man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ;

14 that we may no longer be children, tossed back and forth and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in craftiness, after the wiles of error;

15 but speaking truth in love, we may grow up in all things into him, who is the head, Christ;

16 from whom all the body, being fitted and knit together through that which every joint supplies, according to the working in measure of each individual part, makes the body increase to the building up of itself in love.

17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind,

18 being darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardening of their hearts;

19 who having become callous gave themselves up to lust, to work all uncleanness with greediness.

20 But you did not learn Christ that way;

21 if indeed you heard him, and were taught in him, even as truth is in Jesus:

22 that you put away, as concerning your former way of life, the old man, that grows corrupt after the lusts of deceit;

23 and that you be renewed in the spirit of your mind,

24 and put on the new man, who in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of truth.

25 Therefore putting away falsehood, speak truth each one with his neighbor. For we are members of one another.

26 “Be angry, and don’t sin.” Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath,

27 and don’t give place to the devil.

28 Let him who stole steal no more; but rather let him labor, producing with his hands something that is good, that he may have something to give to him who has need.

29 Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear.

30 Don’t grieve the Holy Spirit of God, in whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.

31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice.

32 And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you.

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Colossians 3

just as God has forgiven us, cited alongside Ephesians 4 on how we are to forgive

1 If then you were raised together with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated on the right hand of God.

2 Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are on the earth.

3 For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.

4 When Christ, our life, is revealed, then you will also be revealed with him in glory.

5 Put to death therefore your members which are on the earth: sexual immorality, uncleanness, depraved passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry;

6 for which things’ sake the wrath of God comes on the children of disobedience.

7 You also once walked in those, when you lived in them;

8 but now you also put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and shameful speaking out of your mouth.

9 Don’t lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old man with his doings,

10 and have put on the new man, who is being renewed in knowledge after the image of his Creator,

11 where there can’t be Greek and Jew, circumcision and uncircumcision, barbarian, Scythian, bondservant, freeman; but Christ is all, and in all.

12 Put on therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance;

13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do.

14 Above all these things, walk in love, which is the bond of perfection.

15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.

16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your heart to the Lord.

17 Whatever you do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father, through him.

18 Wives, be in subjection to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19 Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them.

20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this pleases the Lord.

21 Fathers, don’t provoke your children, so that they won’t be discouraged.

22 Servants, obey in all things those who are your masters according to the flesh, not just when they are looking, as men pleasers, but in singleness of heart, fearing God.

23 And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men,

24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ.

25 But he who does wrong will receive again for the wrong that he has done, and there is no partiality.

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Romans 5:8

while we were yet sinners Christ died for us; He took the first step even though we might not accept it

8 But God commends his own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

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Recap

The message in order, in a few minutes of reading.

This message was the eighth installment in the pastor's series walking through the twelve steps as a biblical framework for the Christian life. He recapped the first seven steps before turning to step eight, which he described as the hardest one to present: making a list of all the persons we have harmed and becoming willing to make amends to them all. Step nine, with its supporting scripture, was held for the following week.

What was said

the pastor opened with a quick recap of steps one through seven. Step one is admitting powerlessness over a particular sin, what he called a "besetting sin," and recognizing that life has become unmanageable. Step two is coming to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Step three is the decision to actually turn our will and our lives over to God. He noted that these first three steps are often revisited together whenever a new problem surfaces.

Steps four and five move into honest self-examination. Step four is making a fearless and searching moral inventory of yourself, not of other people. The pastor said a good place to start is the vice lists scattered through the New Testament, and he offered to email the compiled list to anyone who wanted it. Step five is confession, admitting the exact nature of our wrongs to God, to ourselves, and to another person. He connected this to James 5:16 and to 1 John 1:9, where confession is linked to both forgiveness and being purified from unrighteousness.

Steps six and seven are about readiness and humility. Step six is being entirely ready to have God remove the defects of character, and the pastor returned to the story of the man at the Pool of Bethesda as a picture of that willingness. Step seven is humbly asking God to remove those shortcomings. He said both steps rest on the same foundation: God resists pride but gives grace to the humble.

Step eight is where the work turns outward toward other people. Having identified what our sins are, we now consider who those sins have hurt. The pastor connected this to the church's own motto, loving God and loving people through Christ, and said the first seven steps address our relationship with God while step eight is where that relationship begins to work itself out in personal ones. He used a hypothetical, tracing how sins like enmity, conceit, abusive language, and quarrelsomeness eventually land on specific people, not just on our relationship with God.

He was careful to say that step eight is about willingness, not yet about action. The willingness is to acknowledge that our behavior has had a personal toll on others and to become open to change. He read the opening paragraphs from the Twelve and Twelve, which describe steps eight and nine together as looking backward to find where we were at fault, making vigorous attempts to repair that damage, and then learning, as an ongoing and never-finished work, how to live in the greatest peace with every person we know.

The pastor closed the sermon portion by connecting step eight to the way God handled our own debt. Quoting Ephesians 4, Colossians 3, and Romans 5:8, he said that just as God in Christ forgave us while we were yet sinners and took the first step without waiting for us to accept it, step eight calls us to become willing to do the same toward others. Step nine, including the specific scripture passages that go with it, was promised for the following week.

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Here is a guide we have prepared for you: the passages in order, questions for the group, and room to write.

  1. The pastor described steps one, two, and three as needing to be revisited whenever we recognize a new problem we had not seen before. When have you found yourself needing to go back to the beginning and admit powerlessness over something you thought you had handled?
  2. The pastor talked about the fearless and searching moral inventory in step four, and asked how you can even know if you are self-deceived. What role do you think the Holy Spirit, God's Word, and other believers each play in helping us see what we cannot see on our own?

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Speaker 1We're good to go. Alright. I'm gonna invite Scott Humphrey, if he would. Delbert. Come on forward, Delbert.
Good to see you. Would you take that in hand? And we're gonna ask, would you stand with us and we're gonna sing some folks in from the barbecue line out there. I hope. We're all gonna sing.
Yeah. Love. Let's sing one that we know. How about that? Love lifted me.
We'll start off with that. Wherever you wanna be. Thank you for getting up here.
Speaker 2I was sinking deep in sin far from the peaceful shore, very deeply stained within, sinking to rise no more. But the master of the sea heard my despairing cry from the waters lifted me now safe am I. Love lifted me, love lifted me when nothing else could help, love lifted me. Love lifted me. Love lifted me.
When nothing else could help, love lifted All my heart to him I give ever to him I'll play in his blessed presence live ever his praises sing Love so mighty and so true merits my soul's best songs. Faithful, loving service to to him belongs. Love lifted me. When nothing else could help. Love lifted me.
Souls in danger look above. Jesus completely saves. He will lift you by his heart out of the angry ways. He's the master of the sea, billows his will obey. He, your savior, wants to be be saved today.
Love lifted me. Love lifted me
Speaker 1Amen. Amen. Let's do let's do another one. How about that? How great thou art?
We know that one. How great thou art? Fantastic. There are hymnals up front if you want one.
Speaker 2I think you probably know this. Oh Lord, my God, when I am awesome wonder, consider all the worlds thy hands have made. I see the stars. I hear the rolling thunder. Thy power throughout a universe display When I look down from lofty mountain grandeur and hear the brook and feel the gentle breeze,
Speaker 1Cleansing my soul, my savior, God, to thee. Thou
Speaker 2How great thou art. How great thou art. And when I think that God his son not sparing, send him to die, thy scarce can take and sings my soul, my savior God to thee.
Speaker 1Heart,
Speaker 2How great thou heart, how great thou when Christ shall come with shout of acclamation and take me home or joy shall fill my heart
Speaker 1Amen. Y'all can have a seat. Have a few announcements. First off is Awana is starting back up tomorrow night. So tomorrow night, 05:45 right here is the place to be.
Kids club starting 05:45. We usually have supper ready for volunteers ahead of time. Volunteers, kids, starts off in this room and then spreads throughout the rest of the church. It's a good time. Look at those guys.
That is crazy night. Crazy hair night. Brian McCooey and the moderator of this church, Steve Baldock. That's who that is right there. Children's church happens during the 09:00 service.
There's a place for lower elementary, upper elementary, middle school, and high school downstairs in the lab downstairs, spread out downstairs. Next week, would you get here early next week? We're gonna have a small group jamboreeapalooza. That's what we're called. Small group jamboreeapalooza, Equipping and encouraging folks to get together in small groups.
It's it's one thing to come together and worship and I actually have had one fellow that used to that had a house church over in Alta, and he came to me and he said, it's great to be together and we are the church when we're this little group of people, but it's really hard singing songs when it's just four or five people in the living room. He said, it's really great to come over here on Sundays and they just were the church, you know, for the rest of the time. Encouraging and equipping more small group participation in the fellowship hall next week between services. So during the connect hour, if you host a group, if you lead a group, if you attend a group, or even if you don't, and if we can convince you to get up and go down there during the 10:00 hour next week, we'd love for you to join the small group, Dramburiapalooza. That's a mouthful.
There's a men's lunch study. I say this every week, please don't think that we're gonna feed you. It's just happening during the lunch hour. If you want to eat lunch, bring it with you. That's great.
B y o s. Bring your own sandwich if you want to eat it. Men's lunch study, Thursdays at 11:55 in the Fellowship Hall. It will end sharply at 01:00. We will be out of there by one, so you can know it's kind of a businessman's lunch sort of thing.
And we're studying second Peter together right now and it is so so good. The JH Women's Community Bible Study is jhwomen'sbiblestudy.com is the place that you can sign up, but you don't have to sign up to show up. This room will have tables and chairs in here and it was standing room only for the past couple of weeks in here on Wednesdays at 10AM, 10AM to noon, right in this room right here, and it's a great time. They also break out into small groups after teaching. So it's a really, really good time to be here.
Ladies, community Bible study here 10AM to noon on Wednesdays. Youth group, middle school, and high school are meeting here from two to 4PM. This is the place to be if you're middle school or high school youth group, two to four at first b right here. Usually in the fellowship hall, Mike is really good about feeding feeding them both spiritually and physically. And I think we covered that.
So I think that's the last one. If you would, stand with us. Anybody have anything to add? Anybody have anything you wish I hadn't said? No.
Suggestions, you know. I'm just kidding. It wouldn't click forward. Now it has. What a day that will be.
Scott, I'm glad you're up here with us.
Speaker 2Thank you. I'm gonna make Judy sing a little louder.
Speaker 1Okay. Good. That's why he's standing over by the piano. We had a three part harmony going on during practice. So we're gonna if you wanna sing your part, feel free.
Please join us. Sing your part.
Speaker 2There is coming a day when no heartache shall come. No more clouds in the sky. No more tears to dim the eye. All is peace forevermore on that happy golden shore. What a day, glorious day that will be.
Hand and leads me through the promised land, what a day glorious day that will be. Amen.
Speaker 1That's good.
Speaker 2Well done, Jew. How about
Speaker 1we do another one? Until then. Until then, my heart will go on singing. Y'all can have a seat. I'm gonna ask the ushers to come forward.
And would you pray with me? God, thank you. Thank you for a time to gather. Thank you for a time to gather and share table fellowship outside. Thank you for a time to have such a glorious day gathered with believers and singing your praises, Lord.
What a privilege that is. In Jesus name, Lord, we ask that you would do your will and your way among us this morning, that you would be moving in our hearts, directing us. Someone came up after the first service that I wanna know what it's like, what it means when it says quench in the spirit. Lord, will you teach us what it means to be directed and empowered by the spirit. May we not quench it, may we not brace ourselves against the wind of the spirit, but allow your spirit to blow wherever it will to use us as it will to be the evidence of your love, of your mercy, your grace, your forgiveness, of your longing for relationship.
In Jesus name, I ask you to do what you will among us, Lord, so that we may be a shining light to people who are in darkness, to people who are without hope. May we be merciful, forgiving, winsome, joyous. Lord, may we be filled with your spirit. In Jesus name, I ask your blessing on this offering that we're taking up right now, that you would multiply it and do whatever it is that you want done with it, Lord. May we not stand in the way, but be a part of what you're doing here in this community and to the very uttermost part, some of the most difficult and dangerous places for the gospel.
We want to be making an impact there just like here. In Jesus name, amen. Wow. Taken off for the gospel was with these people who were going through the 12 step programs. After the first service, I had somebody come forward and she said, you know, I've never been through these steps before.
I've never heard about them. I've never read a page of what they all are. Didn't know anything about it until we started listening here. A few weeks ago and she said, really, it boils down to it if you if you think about it as a Christian, this is our testimony. We have had to pass through each of these steps somewhere in our testimony for the gospel to keep on going forward through us.
We we need to to be considering this. And so it was that was an encouragement to me because as I said this morning, step eight for me is the hardest one to present. So this is where we are, but we're gonna do a brief recap on the first seven steps. I have been making a biblical been making a a kind of a presentation of these steps are biblical and they are and there's no doubt about it. Step eight needs to be included with step nine before I bring scripture with it.
Okay? But I'll do that next week, but we're gonna work through this. Step one is where we admitted that we were powerless over our problem. Now, an Alcoholics Anonymous that say, we admitted that we're powerless over alcohol, but we all, just like we all are wired supernaturally wired with spiritual gifts that God has given. When you become a believer, he gives you a gift that is by his grace alone and it is for it's to be used for the body, for the upbuilding of the church.
In the same way, we have the same kind of issue that the way that we are wired in our fallen state, we have proclivities towards sin and we don't all have the same one, right? So we admitted that we were powerless over whatever our problem is. It is a sin problem that particularly affects us. In Alcoholics Anonymous, this is one of the things that Christians sometimes have a problem with. They say it's a disease.
It's a disease. It's a disease. And they say and it is. Sin is a disease. It is.
And we not all not all of us have all of the sin issues, but we do have a proclivity towards one. Whatever that is for you, step one is admitting that you're powerless over that problem, that your life has become unmanageable. So that is me recognizing my need for something above me, deflation at depth. And I said during the first time I was preaching, I did steps one and two because if you get to step one and you just get deflated at depth and stay there for very long, you will be very depressed, you'll have a very hard problem. If you hit step one, it's important to move on to step two.
We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Could. It's possible that there is something above us that we don't quite understand and it could. And that says power with a capital b, capital p, that's a stand in for God, but that's okay. It is God that's doing this.
We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. This step in the early literature so this is a step of willingness, I can't. I figured out that I can't but I'm willing to believe and belief and seeking after. I believe that there is a power greater than myself that could restore me to sanity. Step three is where we get to the place of saying, I'm gonna let that power take over.
We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God. This decision to surrender is no longer fighting and believing that we can do it ourselves, we can pull ourselves up by our bootstraps. It's beyond us. Our life is unmanageable, but there is someone who can restore us to sanity and we're gonna let God do that. Actually, says over to the care of God as we understood him.
Now, as we understood him is not just make up your own God. This is a smorgasb ord, take a little from here and a little from there. It is saying, we as finite beings do not completely understand the infinite God. It's a statement of humility that says, I'm gonna turn over my will in my life to the care of God as I understand him to be. Now that is a statement of humility and God resists pride, but he gives grace to the humble.
And so I can't, he can, I'm gonna let him step one, two, and three are best handled all at the same time. In fact, that meeting sometimes they'll say that those step one, two, and three, we're revisiting those all over the place. When we realize we have a different problem we had not seen before, we have to go through these same steps again. Step four, we made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, if not of other people. Okay?
We made a fearless and searching moral inventory of our nephews, of our nieces, of our aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, cousins, wife, husband. No. It's we made a I made a fearless and searching moral inventory of myself. And if you start to do that, where do you start? Now, you all came to church this morning, so either you were dragged here or you came here voluntarily, but the Bible usually has something to do with coming to church.
Right? A good place to start in self examination, if I tend to think relative to other people because I'm see other people, I look around and think, well, I'm better than that guy. I hadn't done such and such. I think I'm alright. Looking around, I'm doing okay.
No. Self examination is fearless and searching. Show me. Carl read Psalm 51 this morning before one of the songs. It's show me, Lord.
Search me and see if there be any wicked way in me. Show me and cleanse me. I want for you to show me. So in self examination, I have brought this list forward. I I may just compile the list of all of the vice lists in the New Testament.
So if the New Testament listed as sinful and wrong, actually, it's mostly Paul, Peter, and Hebrews and different places around the epistles mostly. Jesus amplifies the list. Where it says murder up here, he says hatred. So it's this is this is a good start. If you're gonna do a fearless and searching moral inventory, and I could read it.
I've read it several times. Actually, read it so often that my daughter said, are you going to read that again? Out loud in front of everybody. I will give you the list. If you want it, I'll email it to you.
I probably sent it to 15 or 20 people. I have a copy right here. If you want it, it's a good place to start the fearless and searching moral inventory. Lord, what is it that is my issue that it's a besetting sin? Show me the things.
Show me the things, Lord. Now I wanna ask you one question. How do you know if you're self deceived? Think about it. How do you know if you're self deceived?
This is an objective standard. Now, you might be able to look at it. As a believer, you got the Holy Spirit working in your life. One of the jobs of the Holy Spirit in John 15 is to illuminate scripture, to convict of sin, and to convince of righteousness. Those are three of his jobs.
If you're looking into the word, God will, if you're humble, begin to show you the things. Now, that's an if you're humble. If you're proud, you're not going to see them. But this list is pretty powerful when taken seriously. So if you see yourself on that list and then you go to God with it, we admit it to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our own.
That that the the group meetings of AA, it helps when you get together people who are struggling with the same thing because they know that and have experienced the same sort of stuff. We all have a sin problem, all of us. If we can find and link up with someone else that is going through the same type of problem, that's really helpful. Years ago, about six and a half years ago, a friend came to me and needed to get sober and that was the stated goal, knew that's what needed to happen. And I knew that I struggle with my own stuff, and so I said, yeah, I'll walk through those steps with you.
I'd never really considered them before, but this has been the greatest advance spiritually speaking. And I'm exposed to the Bible all the time. I see them all over the place. I mention them up here a lot, but this is the reason we're going through this. Admitting it to God, to ourselves, and another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs is very very helpful in the process of being set free from those wrongs.
It is confession. And we know from first John one nine that if we confess our sins, if we say the same thing as God, it's primarily about agreeing with God. He's faithful and he's just and he will forgive us of those sins and it goes beyond that. It says, and he'll purify us from all unrighteousness. He will keep on being present as we present as we humble ourselves before him and he will transform us.
This I could put in a metal plug for the jamboree a palooza small group thing. It's easier to share this sort of stuff in a small group just like he said a little while ago, the fellow who's in a difficult place, it's easier to share more intimate details in a smaller group of people than in a bigger group of people that goes. James five sixteen says, be confessing your sins to each other and be praying for each other so that you might be healed or saved or made whole. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. If we get together in humility and share our stuff with each other, that is how God can heal it.
Step six, this is just a review. Right? We were entirely ready to have God remove all of these defects of character. If we want to hold on to it, if we want to hold on to it, it stops the process. It stops the progress and it stops the program.
The program works if you work it. You have to get to a place where you're entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character. Now, you might say, well, why would I even be going through the process at all if I didn't want that? But there are some things that we want to hold on to. There's some things that we feel like no one else knows or it's not hurting anybody else.
I know it's wrong, but I want to hold on to it. I want to have just this little thing right here, Lord. This is this is alright. I'm sure it's alright. This is the way you made me and I'm fine with it.
If you want to stop the process by not being ready, it'll stop the process. It'll be quenching the spirit because God wants for you to be made whole. We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. I went back and preached from John five on this. The guy next to the Pool Of Bethesda when Jesus is there and able and ready to heal and he asked the guy, are you willing to be well?
Or do you want to be made whole? Being entirely ready is part of the process. Conviction that I'm wrong and the readiness to change so I don't have to keep on walking in the same way that I've been walking. I wanna walk in victory over this. Yes.
I'm ready for this not to be a part of my identity. Step six and step seven is we humbly ask for God to remove our shortcomings. We humbly ask for God to remove our shortcomings. I've already said it once, I'll say it and I'll keep on saying it that God resists pride, but he gives grace to the humble. This step is about humility and submission to God.
It's really a restatement of step three that we had turned our will and our life over to God as we understood him. Step six is we humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings. I'm gonna go with your way. Humble submission is that, and two weeks ago, I presented on Jesus speaking to Nicodemus in John three. It's about rebirth.
Unless you'd be born from above, the higher power God, unless you're born of God, born again, you're not gonna get free from these things. Humble submission rebirth. Now, we're up to where we're starting today, step eight. Step eight, This is the hardest one for me to present, I think. Because it is a place where I'm looking at all your faces.
I've kept my eyes closed half the service, but I'm looking at all your faces. And I'm seeing y'all and I know that you're earnest about being here, you keep on showing up and you're sincere about looking over the list, and this is the place where we realize that our shortcomings, and our sins, and our faults, and our flaws, and our foibles, and our human frailty has consequences that land on people. Step eight is this, we made a list of all the persons we had harmed and we became willing to make amends to them all. The willingness part of this is what I'm going to focus on today because if you stay at step eight for very long, it's really hard place to stay before you get to step nine. Right?
But I'm going to hold it over till next week, step nine, to really go into it. And I promise there'll be scripture to go with it next week. I want for you to, this week, humbly consider this. So this is a willingness to make amends. At this point, in step eight, it's a willingness.
It's not actually making amends. It's not the restitution part. It's considering actually, it's considering this list again. Step four, you considered it and if you if you think about this, this the motto of this church and when Jesus was asked to simplify what's the most important commandment, he said, love God, right? And the second one is just like it that you love your neighbor as yourself, right?
So, loving God, loving people. The motto of this church and has been for a long time is with all we are, loving God and loving people through Christ. So, if I look at the step one, step two, step three, that's about my relationship with God and that's really good. Step four, I'm taking God's word and I'm looking into it. I'm examining myself soberly as James says and I look and I see this.
That's about my relationship with God. I'm confessing this. And step five, I'm confessing it to God. I'm admitting it to myself. When I tell the other person it's for greater accountability and for them to be praying with me that I would be able to get through this.
That relational step of step five is where it starts to turn towards other people. Step six is squarely back my relationship with God. Are you ready to be made well? And step six I mean, step seven is that humility and rebirth. Well, step eight is where it starts to work itself out.
I had a I said a friend who was a pastor. He was a pastor. He was my uncle's dad. He was a pastor of my uncle's whole life and he one of the things I remember him saying a lot was love must have an object. You don't just love, you love someone.
You love your wife. You love your kids. You love your neighbors. You love your friends. Jesus says love.
Your enemies, it has to have an object. Well, when it comes right down to it, this list actually usually has an object too. If you are at enmity, you're at enmity with someone. So if you are in in enemy mode, you're in enemy mode against somebody and it hurts you and that person. So if I'm willing to make amend, made a list of all the persons we'd harmed.
So in step four, I figure out what my sins are aided by the Holy Spirit, aided by God's word, and then I go through and I might say, this is hypothetical. Right? Oh, Lord, I've been looking at this list. Ray's been just going on and on about it. I decided this week I'd look at it and I recognize something about myself.
I recognize that I am at enmity. I have an us and them mentality that is so strong that I can't get away from it. And it's something that I've always felt fine with until now. But there's no doubt about it. I'm in enemy mode.
It's us and them and they're wrong and we're right. That's enmity. And I get so mad about it that I just could spit. In fact, sometimes I do and I stomp on the ground and I yell fits of anger, abusive language, reviling. Oh, I just can't stand that person.
They're just so dumb. They're just so awful. Abusive language. Conceited. Oh, conceit goes along with enmity so well.
I think I'm better than them. Filled with morbid craving for controversy, Lord. Oh, the Internet. Oh, the Internet. We all want to be a part of something.
Filled with a morbid craving for controversy, overtaken with stupid and senseless controversies and it makes me nothing but quarrelsome Lord. I just can't I just can't let a stupid thing stand on Twitter, I have to answer it. I've been heartless, I've been ruthless, and honestly, I've been so swollen with conceit that even within my family, I've been abusive. Lord, I've never seen this until now and I realize why I just have such a small little view of the world and people don't wanna be around me. I'm broken before you lord.
My life is unmanageable. I believe you can help me out of it. I'm gonna let you show me how. You've already shown me this. I admit it.
I told that preacher, I'm ready to change. I believe it's possible. And then, who did I hurt in this? Oh my goodness. Step eight, we became willing.
It's a recognition that that our sin has had consequences that didn't just hurt our relationship with God where we felt disconnected or couldn't hear his voice or didn't know what he wanted from us. It did that but I feel like that's been cured and now step eight is about personal relationships that's Lord, show me who it is that I've hurt and how I might be able to change that. Now, I'll skip ahead right now to step nine, but I'm gonna go into step nine further next time that I preach which I think is next week. Step nine is we made a direct amends to such people whenever it was possible except when to do so would injure that person or someone else. Now, that is hard to tell.
It's not a blanket just stamp. Oh, yeah. Just do it. Just pay for it. How do you pay back for kicking somebody's dog?
Who knows? I don't know. It might not be possible and not might not be appropriate. Recognition of your own sin and becoming willing to amend your behavior going forward is what step eight is about. I've got something to read.
I've got one other thing up here too that I use all the time. So this is a little just a handout. And every time I do a premarital session, which has been like 312 times in the last thirteen years, every time I go through this, it's about the past and the present and the future. And if you're going to live at the risk of sounding Buddhist in the present, like be very present in the present, you have to figure out how to deal with the past. That's the way people have sinned against you and the way you've sinned against them.
And if you can handle the past and know that I have forgiven everyone and as far as I believe it to be true, nobody's holding anything against me. Now, you can't control that. You can't control whether somebody holds on to the way you've sinned against them. Jesus understands. I promise.
He has made it available to people and there are still people who resist the forgiveness that God is offering and there may be people who resist it from you too. But to get the past in the past, it's best to start right here with sins that I have committed against God and against other people, taking a full account of it, grieving that hurt and that loss, asking God for forgiveness and confessing that to the other person where it's possible. If you do that, it'll put you in a very humble state to be able to deal with the way people have sinned against you. And how are we supposed to be forgiven? Just as God in Christ has forgiven us, Ephesians four.
Just as God has forgiven us, Colossians three. How did God forgive us? Romans five eight. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. He took the first step even though we might not accept it.
He did his part. Step eight is being willing to amend our behavior. I'm gonna read something. This is so good. Honestly, the twelve and twelve is so so so good.
I know it's not scripture but it's based on scripture. Okay. I'm gonna read the first couple paragraphs of step eight from the twelve and twelve. Steps eight and nine are concerned with personal relationships. In step eight, first of all, we take a look backward and we try to discover where we have been at fault.
And next, we make a vigorous attempt in step nine, to repair the damage that we have done. And third, having thus cleaned away the debris of the past, we consider how with our newfound knowledge of ourselves, which we get from humble submission before God, we may develop the how we may develop the best possible relations with every human being that we know. And this is a very large order. It's a task which we may perform with increasing skill, but we never really finish. Learning how to live in the greatest peace, partnership, and brotherhood with all men and women of whatever description is a moving and fascinating adventure.
Ain't that good? Step eight, this week, I've been I I even got put on ice because we had the missionary last week. I had two weeks to actually consider this one longer than I usually do. And step eight is where we realize actions have consequences and we need to come to the personal toll of that and be ready, willing. Next week, we'll talk about it and I'll give you what Jesus has to say about it next week.
We're gonna sing another song. Judy, would you come forward? Scott, would you come forward? And we're gonna sing take my life, lead me, lord. Thank you.
Would you stand with us? This is the altar is always open and invitation today is for all of us. In our pursuit of God, is to pursue peace with all people. May I pray real quickly and then we'll start the song. God almighty, I pray that you would move in our hearts and show us the ways that we have been off of your good old gospel way.
May we be loving and winsome. I I I think we need to speak the truth lord in love. Would you show us your way and allow us the grace to walk in it as we go forward? Amen.
Speaker 2Take my life lead me lord take my life Lead me, Lord. Make my life useful to thee. Take my life. Lead me, Lord. Take my life.
Lead me, Lord. Make my life useful to thee. Take my life. Teach me, Lord. Take my life.
Teach me, Lord. Make my life useful to thee. Take my life. Teach me, Lord. Take my life.
Teach me, Lord. Make my life useful to thee. Here am I. Send me, Lord. Here am I.
Send me, Lord. Make my
Speaker 1Amen. And now, I just wanna pronounce a blessing on you, lord. As we go, I pray that you would make your face to shine upon us, that we would see your countenance as the scripture says, Lord. That we'd see your face so clearly and that we would reflect it on the world around us. In Jesus name, I ask that you would make your face to shine upon us and give us peace, lord.
Peace that passes understanding and peace that we can pass on to those who do not yet know you. May we be useful to you. In Jesus name, amen.

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